Lessons on life come from unusual places. The best lessons come from being in a rut. For some people, a rut or being stuck, is a safe place to be. For others of us, a rut is a very bad place to stay.
I compare it to listening to a CD that gets stuck on a scratch or a piece of dirt. The same part of a song plays over and over until you cannot stand it, and you must change the CD.
Being stuck in a rut means you must make a change. How to change is the big question. You really do not know how until you discover what the lesson is.
Yes, it is a paradox. But, life is like that.