It takes a lot of motivation to move beyond the barrier that holds you back. Whether it is a fence, or a person, or a thought pattern, the barrier is real.
I always think of FRIED GREEN TOMATOES when I think of barriers. I think of Evelyn, played by Kathy Bates, who takes a hammer and smashes down the wall that she has hated fro years.
When I have a barrier, I pick up my imaginary hammer, and I smash the barrier.