We all have personal sensitivities—“hot buttons”—that are evoked in close relationships. Mindfulness practice helps us to identify them and disengage from our habitual reactions, so that we can reconnect with our partners. We can mindfully address recurring problems with a simple four-step technique: (1) Feel the emotional pain of disconnection, (2) Accept that the pain is a natural and healthy sign of disconnection, and the need to make a change, (3) Compassionately explore the personal issues or beliefs being evoked within yourself, (4) Trust that a skillful response will arise at the right moment. – Christopher Germer, "Getting Along"
I read this quote and realized how appropriate it is for these times when we are all on a short fuse and anxious about what will happen. I wondered how many people are finding that the hot buttons that they thought were dealt with are now popping up in the most odd places, and anger is being triggered. Or perhaps it is not anger, it is simply the huge reaction (emotional) that you have to something. Triggers are all about learning – around self, family, and beliefs.
What beliefs do you carry that are not helping you? What values are out dated? What people are no longer going to be part of your life because you need to move on?
These questions are ones that we see pop up everyday. How are you handling them?
See the October 2011 Angels’ magazine at www.angelsandancestors.com
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