Christmas Thoughts–Saying Goodbye

This is the time of year when many friends and family choose to die and leave the planet.  We said good bye to someone we love very much on Sunday. 

The instant that a life passes, everything is different.  Changes happen to help us grow, and to find ways to cope with new experiences.

Our Ancestors learned to say good bye early in life because the life span was not very long.  They were strengthened by the passing, and they honored their ancestral folks once a year. 

We do not have a practice for bringing our deceased relatives or other loved ones into our daily life, in the 21st century.  Perhaps it is time that we find a way to give death a respectful place in our daily rituals.

Grief is the by product when a being leaves.  It is like a winter storm, it has to run its course and run itself out.  It is intense and violent, and then drifts into calm.

Beginnings happen after every big change.  We map out a new course of being, and then we move on with our life.  Over time, the sense of loss does ease, but the hole in one's life is always there.

Healing, it is said, is a product of who we are, and what our faith is.  Healing takes time.  It cannot be forced.  When it is finally complete, there is a sense of rightness.  That rightness may take years to achieve.  It is as it is.

Many blessings.