The Angels tell us that it is WE who determine what happens in our lives. We make the choices, we do the work. Or not. If we do not put in the effort then nothing happens and nothing changes. We can always ask for help to get us over a rough patch in our lives but it is still up to each one of us to make the effort. Chop wood and haul water. Fire does not happen on its own. Water does not slack one's thirst without some effort.