Heart's-ease in the king's garden
You cannot improve upon yourself. And I am not saying that improvement does not happen, remember--but you cannot improve upon yourself. When you stop improving upon yourself, life improves you. In that relaxation, in that acceptance, life starts caressing you, life starts flowing through you. Nobody else has ever been like you and nobody else will ever be like you; you are simply unique, incomparable.
Accept this, love this, celebrate this--and in that very celebration you will start seeing the uniqueness of the others, the incomparable beauty of the others.
Love is possible only when there is a deep acceptance of oneself, the other, the world. Acceptance creates the milieu in which love grows, the soil in which love blooms. - From OSHO, The Transformation Tarot
I have been chatting with many people who are noticing trouble in their relationships – with partners, spouses, children, family members, and co-workers. Why? The big question, is always “why?”
I am observing that whenever we have self doubt, then the mirror for that doubt shows up in the difficulty in a relationship. The key, it seems, is to have great confidence in self. I don’t mean that one should be egotistical or have a chip on their shoulders. I mean that each person should have a knowing of their skills, that they are valuable, and that there is no need to please anyone else.
Some helpful mantras are at http://angelsandancestors.blogspot.ca/2010/01/spirit-speaks-affirmations-are-gift.html