The hardest part of living is not doing the necessary, day to day activities; it is the constant stress of all the "you should's" and the dealing with "what is wrong with you" messages.
The people around us find it easier to try to manage your life than to deal with their own life. The Ancestors realize that tension is created when we are trying to do something that is out of our nature. The structure of our work, our leisure, our politics and our religions, all combine to create unnecessary stress and tension.
We need to find a way to exercise our free will. We need to figure out the steps for letting go of the tensions, and for finding out the sweet place where we can love our self, freely.