Sometimes, we have to believe in our self, and not anyone else. If we listen to others, we are shaped by their perceptions of the world, of us, and we become their image. We need to be able to be true to what our scan is. By scan, I mean our blue print. We know that no two bridges can have exactly the same blueprint because of the width of the river, the stability of the banks, and the type of river traffic that uses the river. So too none of us can have the same blueprint.